FIRST I will start with:
What DOES NOT Work when a man approaches you IN PUBLIC?
1) Full on stare mode... creeper (1 out of 9 women said that)
Go figure guys… we don’t want to be visually molested.
2) Flashing Money Around (1 out of 9 women said this)
From being around men who actually have money, I’ve noticed that no man who actually has it, has to flaunt it because usually everyone around them will make that fact known. That, plus the fact that amazing women are actually looking for a relationship based on quality factors, throwing bills in the air is probably not going to get you far.
3) When they come and tell me things like "Where is your boyfriend?" (1 out of 9 women said this)
I’m not really sure what response you’re looking for here guys, but I think I’d probably come up with a “boyfriend” real quick & excuse myself.
4) Cheesy Pick Up Lines (2 out of 9 said this)
I really think that Twitter is the only place cheesy pickup lines should live.
5) Making comments about our appearance (2 out of 9 women said this)
This was brought up when women were asked what not to say when contacting a woman online. Guys, a truly amazing woman has a heck of a lot more to her than her looks & THAT is what you need to focus. It is insulting to default to visual features when there are a lot more impressive qualities about us.
6) Touching in any Way (2 out of 9 women said this)
Personally, I don’t like being touched by anyone unless I know them let alone some random guy at a club trying to dry hump my leg.
7) Acting self-absorbed or like God’s gift to women (3 out of 9 women said this)
When you men are doing this, are you trying to convince us of your greatness, or yourselves? We’re not really looking for an audio billboard of who you are, we’re seeing how well we interact with you as an individual…. So perhaps you should focus on just that… interacting!
Now that we covered, what does not work, what did my Amazing friends say would actually work?
1) Genuine Compliment (1 out of 9 women said this)
Again, avoiding “you are hot”, but a compliment on a trait that the women might find valuable. Her intelligence, maybe how she handled a situation, a joke, etc.
2) A Polite Introduction (3 out of 9 women said this)
Casual hellos, shaking a girls hand & introducing yourselves works wonders! Don’t make a big deal about it, say HI & have a good time.
3) A Genuine Conversation (3 out of 9 women said this)
Say something clever or ask a question. Act interested in the woman as a person. You don’t need to get too deep, but it shouldn’t be shallow either. Actually listen (there’s that “interaction” thing again) & make relevant comments. Find something you have in common & then go from there!
4) SMILE! (4 out of 9 women said this)
If almost half the women here randomly stated this, it must work! When I think back to the men who’ve had lasting impressions on me, I remember the first time we met & their smile from across the room. One of my girls here stated “preferably good teeth & all of them”, but if you’ve got that, try it out Cheshire!
And that’s that, what real, amazing women said about how they like & dislike being approached in public. So before your mouth opens with "I forgot my phone number. Can I have yours?", keep this blog in mind… heck, come back for refreshers each time before you go out… I like the hits! & Good luck!