When you're in a relationship where your significant other only spends time making himself & other women happy, you have a lot of time to work on your knowledge base. Some peole ask me how I learned the web design & business stuff. Well, 6 years with him gave me enough free time to make it comparable to my entire previous 17 years of schooling.
Cheaters get delusional where they think they’re story is under wraps. While, in reality, everyone around them is saying what an asshole they are. One fabulous display was where my ex announced he was “going camping by himself” to our entire soccer team. The words “Who the hell believes that?” were actually spoken out loud.
3. Games Like ”What do I know? What don’t I know?”
A classic execution of this is my BFFN (Best Friend For Now ) who’s wife was running around on him w/ a Fred Meyer checker. Being a professional at comedic timing, he waited for the perfect opportunity to break it out to the little lady that he knew about her affair. All it took was a few simple words to drop her jaw… “So, when is your boyfriend going to bring my car back?”
4. Marriage Counceling Turns Into One-on-One Therapy
Showing up to marriage counseling by yourself because your ex was busy with “work floozy” is never a good sign. But, it gives the counselor a chance to slap you into shape. Mine literally grabbed my shoulders, looked me in the eyes, & said "You need to find someone who loves you.".... Tattoo-worthy words of my life.
My ex went on a weekly date to a 24 Hour fitness yoga class. No, it wasn't for his love of spandex. One day, I called him about 5 minutes before class so he had no fair warning & said "Hey! I'm going to join you at yoga today... I'm on my way!" You know the "torture strategy" sales approach where they sit you down and don't let you go until you have a year contract w/ a personal trainer? Well, use this phrase & you're out in 2 minutes tops, "Here's the thing... My husband has been dating this chick from work & he comes here with her. So, I'm just going to go to the class this once with no package & may never join." Done with no further questions!
I know, some people make things work through things like this, but my ex couldn’t give up his wedding date… No, I don't think they made it either (wierd)… When my ex got busted with “work floozy” at the job my father got him, the pup, all my stuff, and myself were thrown quickly into a U-Haul. He may have got the house & destroyed the wedding plans I had made since the age of 5, but the trade out was better than a MasterCard commercial. The chance to live the life I live & meet the amazing people I know today. Not to mention, hopes of finding that person that marriage counselor was talking about.
Being cheated on makes a person think “what’s wrong with me?” or “what does that trashy girl who doesn’t shave, has horrible taste in clothing, & kind of smells have that I don’t have?”… Well here’s the thing… It’s the cheaters selfish issues, not you. If there are people who will cheat on women like Sandra Bullock & Halle Berry then there are people who will cheat on ANYONE! Most of the time, they choose trash because trash makes them feel better about how they themselves treat people. Yes, it takes 2 to tango, but if there’s a problem in a marriage, they’re still the one with no balls, don’t deal with it & bring others to the table. One of the best things I was told when thinking about my marriage, was that there is one famous story of a guy bringing his ex to his wedding… Charles & Diana. I don't know about you, but I'm seeing a princess thing going on here.